I don’t know about you, but when I was a kid it was drummed into me that ‘I WANT gets nothing’. Now, I understand the logic in this statement and fully appreciate it’s meaning in terms of its politeness or lack of as some people might think.
What is wrong with wanting????
I want gets nothing is a statement that has stayed with me through my adult life, to the point that I have been drumming it into my own kids…..
Well not anymore!!
I will expect my kids to still use the word please, as I am big on manners. They have served me well through life and I think they are important for our kids to learn, but I will no longer be correcting their use of the words I want.
I have been doing a lot of personal development and looking inside myself lately and strongly believe that not being allowed to WANT as a child has held me back in going after the things I really want as an adult.
I have had a limiting belief as to what I can achieve and what I can do and should be able to have. I haven’t felt as deserving as perhaps I should. I have been lucky enough to recognise this limiting belief and put things in place to lift it. I am now working on my money blocks. I will be writing about this next, so look out for that!
I don’t want that for my kids. They are both strong willed and know what they want. Yes, there is something to be said for not getting everything you want, and my kids certainly don’t, but the word ‘I WANT’ is a powerful word and one that I feel shouldn’t be discouraged.
From here on in my kids will be allowed to express the things they want. I will, of course, be making sure that they value what they already have so that they want the right things in life. To value and be grateful for what you have allows you to look at your life and see what’s important right now and be able to see what it is you really want. I’m not talking material possessions, like toys, games, gadgets and clothes. I’m talking about the big things in life. Our vision of how our life could be, what career we truly aspire to have and how we see our lives and our kids lives 10 years from now.
I was speaking to a friend only this morning about what it is she really wants. To begin with she thought it was a bigger house with a bigger kitchen. When I asked her why she wanted this she realised that she wanted it for all the wrong reasons. In fact, she didn’t want it at all. She thought it would make her happy. When I asked her “Are you happy now?” she replied “yes”. She was going to give up her home, her life, her friends and being near her family for a house further away….and all because it was bigger. She realised that it wasn’t her that wanted the house, it was today’s society that had given her the idea that this is what she should have.
We are all different, but in this day and age we are all so caught up in what other people are doing, what is socially acceptable, what the ‘celebs’ are doing and what the media tells us, that we have lost who we are as individuals and what we really want for ourselves. We’re being brainwashed in to always wanting what other people have, instead of looking inside ourselves and feeling and believing in what is right for us.
People have lost the ability to believe that they can have the career they WANT and the life they WANT, as they are too busy comparing their life to other people’s.
So, I ask you – What do YOU WANT?
I’ll tell you what I want– I WANT to be successful, be able to support my family and friends when they need it and give my kids a good start in life and the tools they need to grow into successful, kind and supportive adults.
My next blog will be on money blocks so look out for it!
If you’d like to know more about how I’ve worked on my limiting beliefs and money blocks, then get in touch at firstname.lastname@example.org